I woke up this morning and said the word “Attachment” out loud. It has been happening lately where I wake up saying words or sentences out loud. I don’t even think I’m fully awake when I say them but it has been quite exciting. I started to think about how we are conditioned to be attached to things we really don’t need or benefit us. I’m not only talking about materials, but also people, feelings, environments & lifestyles.
Why are we attached to all these things?
We come to this world with no attachments, or distinction between ourselves and the rest of the world. As babies we have no awareness of ourselves, and separation between our thoughts, feelings, and actions towards anything. We are one with the universe without boundaries and desires. Complete wholeness.
Thinking of this I not only asked myself what attachments I have, but also why would I want to be attached to less?
At first I thought being attached to less would have me feel less pain and not getting hurt, but when I was thinking more about it, it wasn’t really that..When I really thought about it, I believe it is to feel free from my ego and the conditions we all have been taught is who we are, and to come back to complete wholeness and feeling one with the universe again.
When I went to Costa Rica for example, I couldn't figure out why my body and soul felt so much better there. I came to realize my attachments to things were less and I was in an environment with highly positive vibrations and a lot of creativity. I realized how important that is for my Body, Mind & Spirit.
“If energy is going up, it’s going towards life. If it’s going down, it’s going towards death.” - Bruce Lipton
Knowing everything is built up from energy, I wonder how much of it do we really use, and how do we use it?
Some say we have to die in order to be reborn and that might be true, but are we dying because we decide to, or because someone told us to attach to things to feel normal..I’m not saying that we always can be around positive energies, but I am saying that we have to learn how to live with both, if we decide to live fully in reality. Being attached to too many things brings us down.
For example if our bodies & mind are attached to primarily low vibrations consistently, we perhaps unconsciously live our lives less than our true potential, and therefore against, and in resistance to reality, and the natural flow of life itself. We attach to the feelings of safety and security when real growth comes from uncertainty and moving through layers of fear. Having fear originally was instilled in us when we were young and was developed for us to survive the many curveballs life gives us, but growing into adulthood we realize that living in survival mode is not really a healthy choice, yet that is very common in today's world. We unconsciously attach to things and unfortunately are not able to see our true selves. We are terrified of that unknown part of ourselves so we start to resist, change or push it away. But what if having no attachments would set us free..and the things we want in life are an illusion of safety.. Can uncertainty be another alternative to growth and happiness?
Then we might have to ask ourselves; What do we want? And why do we want the things we want?
There will always be more things we think we need and want, unless we detach from our attachments to them, and or put different meanings to them. I believe our inner peace in relationship to the universe and nature is the only thing we need. I have been talking to many about their attachments to things in their life.
I asked one friend;
Does it feel good to get rid of things?
She answered;
“ No.. I mean it’s harder for me to get rid of old or antique items, than the newer things ”
Another friend said;
“If we talk about materials and my business, I keep duplicates of things to make it simpler if one breaks. If I get a deal on an item I would rather have more than one in case one breaks. I also like to recycle things instead of throwing them out. They really don’t have any real value other than keeping it easier. Then I have things that have a sentimental value to me which I will always keep. I’m working on eventually not having any attachments to anything.”
I have two storages which I’m working to get rid of. There are things I want to keep but so many things I don’t really need or have any value to me anymore. I don’t want to throw it all out as I believe it is a waste to not have someone reuse it, that could benefit from it.
From attachments come more responsibilities, stress and pain, and we can’t escape it if we attach and identify ourselves with it. If we start to identify ourselves with these attachments to things, people, feelings, after a while we don’t know who we really are..
When I was in Costa Rica my camera got stolen 2 weeks into my trip. This experience as a professional photographer was at first a very painful experience. After a while of not pressing that shutter I was feeling so distraught from not having that shutter capturing that moment in time..
I realized I had identified myself so much with the feeling it gave me. I also realized I have been attached to the feeling of being really great at something.. I’m not my camera, and I’m not the one taking great photos either....It’s something I enjoy and I’m good at, but it’s not who I am.. so getting upset, or feeling sad wasn’t productive or even making sense. I end up accepting the loss and surrendered to the moment of living without it. And as soon as I did, the universe gave me many glorious opportunities to experience, things that I know wouldn’t have happened if I forced a solution or stayed in anger or victimhood.
If we are not attached to things, it doesn’t matter where we are, what we do. It’s not that we wouldn’t feel, or be happy, on the contrary, I believe we would be able to stay in the present and feel more deeply and consciously.
One attachment that I see most of us struggle with is our attachments to our thoughts, jobs, food and our pets..yeah I said pets as it’s so interesting how we often identify ourselves more with them than loved ones in our life..
We put value on things that don't really mean anything to us, because we desperately need to fill the void we are feeling about ourselves. For example we can become so attached to our emotions and feelings that they start to control us in every step we take, and for sure can get us in tremendous trouble.
At one point in my life I was extremely attached to the past and my childhood, which didn’t make sense at all as my past was not the greatest.. so why would I want to be attached to something that made me feel bad, or put my energy into something that is the past..It was because I identified myself with being a victim which is not who I am either. I was a victim to something that happened, but that is not who I am.
Bottom line is to become aware and conscious of what we attach to, and what value we put on these things. I believe it is the first step to coming back to our true selves. Then we can decide how to to remove those attachments to things that do not benefit us, and in return we can feel more free and more connected to ourselves and this universe.
Today’s Assignment;
Think of something you know you are really attached to. Think of why you are attached to it, and how it benefits you or not. Who would you be if that wasn’t in your life? Do you need to be attached to it to feel good, or is it a habit that was developed from fear of being alone?
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