Feeling isolated never crossed my mind until I lived in a place where I felt very isolated emotionally. The place was gorgeous but socially many people around seemed very withdrawn and private.
Why do we isolate ourselves?
I found there are many different reasons we isolate ourselves. Sometimes we isolate ourselves from society and people in order not to have to deal with differences and difficulties we face everyday. Maybe a fear that people and society won’t accept our authentic self, so we withdraw to soothe the stress of not fully being able to be ourselves around others. When I say this I’m not saying that we can’t function around people, nor being by ourselves sometimes is healthy. I am specifically saying we have a hard time being ourselves, or getting to know others and trusting people around us and ourselves. We also tend to isolate ourselves when we are in pain and depressed.
I remember I didn’t know how to find people I can feel myself and be safe with, so I isolated myself from everyone and that made me feel more lonely and depressed..
Ultimately I think it had to do with not wanting to get close to anyone, and having to deal with our differences, or being afraid of getting hurt. It also had to do with shame and not believing I was good enough, and I didn’t want other people to see my pain. Removing myself not only made me feel worse, it also didn’t resolve what I needed to do to heal, so I could grow and be proud of who I am.
When we feel strong and proud of ourselves we automatically want to share that love with the world. Another part for me was also a feeling of disconnection and a separation between my connection to the cosmic universe and the reality of the present life. I started to like staying in the cosmos more than being in the now. When I say cosmos I mean entering deep meditation where I connect to the different energies and frequencies of our beautiful world. There I didn’t have to deal with the pain and suffering of day to day life.
I isolated myself emotionally and again I felt more and more disconnected and separated, and in turn feeling alone and isolated. Now this was good because it made me realize how dependent we humans really are on feeling connected and feeling understood and part of something. There will always be pain and joy, no matter how much we want to avoid it or run away from it, so how can we be our best around everyone instead of isolating ourselves from society or situations? If we are always trying to justify our inability to feel happy, because of our fears of not feeling understood and accepted we don’t grow.
Genuine vulnerability to one another makes us feel less isolated and different. We all have a never ending story that is here to be expressed, not hidden. The more we share our experiences and open up, the more we heal and grow, and also be able to give and stay present.
Today’s Assignment;
Ask yourself;
When do I isolate myself?
Why do I isolate myself?
When I see people do communicate how I feel?
Can I trust what I feel?
Am I being aware of and really listening to what the person is saying?
Are they hearing me when I speak?
When I want to leave, why do I want to leave?
How can I feel more comfortable around people?
How can I practice being comfortable in any environment or situation?
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