Robert Zaslow boldly defines rage as the highest, most intense form of arousal for full materialization of resources that can be used destructively or constructively and anger, at least initially, is a less intensely felt and instinctually driven human emotion.
We all feel anger and we all have the right to feel angry, but it’s about how we handle it that is important. When we feel anger, our blood in our bodies rushes through, adrenaline is pumping and we start to sweat, clench our fists, and there are times when we say things to others that are not acceptable.. Because our physical changes are so powerful when we get angry, we sometimes have a hard time to controlling our minds, and we lash out on anybody that triggers what we are not able to control and we become more angry. In one way you feel high, and it’s a very powerful feeling. If we can use and express that energy the right way, or creatively use it to our advantage, we can become more familiar when it comes again. Express it in a safe place, where it adds something to your life instead of it being destructive. Anger is a false sense of power until you process it.
I have witnessed many different ways people process their anger. One of the ways I noticed is holding it in, which might be the worst.. We don’t say or feel or express in any way. It builds up over time and then it explodes. The reason is maybe we have been judged at one point when we were expressing anger, and when we did, someone might have lashed out and we developed a fear of it. Another way people express their anger in an unhealthy way is to project their anger onto someone else, so they don’t have to feel the loss of control that is too painful. Many times they become physically and verbally abusive. The third way I found is to manipulate and shame others into believing they have the right to be angry and will make all efforts convincing you to believe their anger and their actions are justified. When I become angry I usually start cleaning, want to be left alone until my feelings subside. Going for a walk out in nature will also do it. When I feel calm I can come back and resolve it, either the person I’m angry at, or discuss it with a friend.
Today’s Assignment
Try to recognize your anger, how you act, and how your body feels when you start becoming angry. Write it down, and think of ways you can express it and use it creatively.
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